Breaking Chains: The Intimate Rebirth of Your Inner Muse
Chandresh delves into the essence of creativity and meditation in this enlightening episode of The Leela Show. He examines why many of us are bound by fear, societal norms, and the constant pressure to seek external validation.
Chandresh will help you unleash your true artistic potential, establish a deep connection with your inner self, and redefine the essence of your art and meditation practices using a thought-provoking discussion and a three-step formula. Join us on this journey to break free from your chains and embrace the intimate rebirth of your inner muse. By doing so, you'll transform your creative endeavors and your life.
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Take a deep breath. Reflect on these five unique questions that you may ask yourself, you may reflect on. Come back to these questions whenever you need to write down these questions. If that's more helpful.
First question, when you think about creating art or meditating, what are the specific fears that come to your mind? Can you trace these fears back to specific events, people or beliefs in your life?
Number two, when you seek approval through your work, what are you hoping to feel? Is it a sense of belonging, validation, love or perhaps something else?
Number three, what are the attachments that you cling to most tightly? And how do they serve you? Do they bring genuine joy and fulfillment or are they safety nets that keep you from exploring new depths?
Number four, if you were to let go of your strongest attachment, what do you imagine the immediate emotional fallout would be? How might your life and your creative self-expression change in the absence of this attachment?
Last one, what does intimacy with yourself look and feel like? Can you identify a time when you felt deeply connected with your inner being and how did that influence your creativity and self-expression?
In this episode, we'll dive into these questions and so much more. I am Chandresh Bhardwaj and this is the Leila show.
Now must, to everyone, I hope you're feeling easy, cozy and safe. In this episode, we'll be exploring three elements.
Number one, understanding your attachments.
Number two, experiencing detachment.
Number three, acting from intimacy.
The first one, attachment is so interesting why it is so interesting because every time I talk about it, especially on a platform like Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, I get immediate reaction and the reaction is usually irritating to the audience. They are triggered, they're angry, they don't approve my view of attachment. And that's exactly what the attachment does. We are severely attached to the belief systems to the way we are wired to understand relationships, social constructs, narrative of failure and success. These are all attachments and they start to happen when you happen to, you know, take birth in a certain family culture, the attachments that are followed that are believed deeply in that particular family will affect you. You know, you are a remix of them. You are born in that particular family. So spiritually, emotionally, psychologically, you are going to pick up stuff from them. And also you are born in a certain planetary position. You are born in a certain dynamic in a certain karmic contract. And that also adds up to the fare the attachments you carry, of course it doesn't mean that is your trap for life.
There is a way to get out of that. But the reason you happen to sit with these attachments, you happen to jump into these attachments because that's the human experience. That's the karma. You are here to understand and sit with the modern seekers. Life is not to run away from attachments, not to spiritualize the life so obsessively that they stop paying attention to attachments.
But a modern seeker's life is to witness and sit with these attachments and understand how they are limiting your self-expression. And the reason why you must go through a deep exploration of your attachments with your relationships, your work, the way you show up in society, the way you show for yourself is because you owe to yourself a profound honest, raw self-expression that is only and only yours.
The truth is you are not born accidentally, you are born to live a certain self-expression, you're born to deliver a specific unique message to the world. But if you're so busy pleasing others, if you're so busy living through the toxic loop of attachments, you will never be able to experience the reality of your life. Beyond these attachments, there are so many examples of how the attachment clings to us, how it starts to limit us.
And I'll pick up examples from the people I work with students and clients. I work with, including myself, everyone has suffered from the toxicity of attachments in certain way. I'm not denying the relevance or importance of attachments. Attachment has its role to play. It takes you to a certain playground. But if you get stuck there, you never get to experience the true love, intimacy, creativity that exists in abundance.
Beyond attachments, attachments become so popular in every culture because they are safe nets, they are familiar, they are known, they have been tested and proven multiple times. And even though they bring suffering, it's a known suffering and human being is so interesting. We always choose to work with a known devil rather than experimenting with the unknown.
So we continue to live with the known traumas and fears and repetitive drama, repetitive circus of life. That's why we have the collective anxiety, loneliness, anger, confusion everywhere. And my friend, you cannot resolve the trap of attachments. If you're not willing to accept that there is an attachment that you're not able to heal, that you're not able to resolve it.
Acceptance awareness of the attachment is the biggest thing here. I worked with a student who was in a long term abusive relationship and somehow she always felt it's normal to be in that toxicity. It's normal to be in that space with another human who's not willing to work on themselves. Attachment also looks like working so hard on an idea on a business or in a job where you're not getting anything at all.
There is no personal financial, spiritual growth, but you continue to stay stagnant in that space because somehow it is familiar it is known attachments also look like doing things from a root place of validation, approval, fair showing to the world to the family, to the society that I got it. I know what I'm doing. Attachment comes from the space of mind where mind has created a certain identity information and memory of how things have always been for you and mind loves to be in the known to be in the past and to constantly project the future based on the past data, based on the past information to go beyond mind is to go beyond attachments. Attachments also look like sticking to a business model that no longer excites you. But you're simply there because you're attached to it. It could be emotional attachment. It could be a fearful attachment.
Attachments are attachments. You know, they're just hanging on the wall. They have no life, but they're simply there for decorative purpose. Think about a red rose and a plastic red rose. I have given this example many times. Attachment is the plastic red rose. It's glossy, beautiful, attractive. You could place it in your lobby in your, you know, videos reels.
It will always look amazing. You might even get compliments, but it has, it has no life. It's not solving any purpose. Besides that aesthetic purpose, for the sake of whatever decoration you want to do and an actual red rose will look beautiful, but it's there for a limited space. It has life. If it's in your room, it will die in a day or two. If it's in a backyard, it will stay for a while. But when the new season comes, these old flowers will go away and then new season brings, you know, new opportunity and flowers in the backyard require work, require patience, understanding, trust, constant work.
But the plastic red rose in your living room doesn't need any of the work. You buy it and you keep it there. It doesn't even need water, nothing at all. It's just there. And this is the reality of how we live our life. We be it creating content for social media, be it relationships, be it showing up for your self-expression for your art. The mind tends to choose the plastic red roses only for one purpose. They look good, they appear good, they give the illusion of something real. But in reality, there is nothing real in it.
In reality, there's no life in it. The awareness and acceptance of a plastic red rose will eventually help you to plant the real roses in the backyard to have real roses in your living room. That acceptance and awareness will also push you to release certain belief systems, to release certain patterns that's been followed blindly in your family, in your culture.
To go beyond attachment is to also create a subtle revolution against a system, a social construct that has been obeyed, honored for ages only for the sake of safety net. That is all, if you truly understand the trap of your attachments, you may start ending up certain friendships, relationships, business ideas, the visions, the dreams you may have because you realize all of them are rooted in fear, all of them are rooted in a certain vacuum, a certain narrative where you only believe and you only know that maybe I need to keep feeding this and that is the only purpose.
Attachment is a fantasy plan. It's a wishful thinking. It pushes you to create a gauge a fort a mansion where you can possess what you love and you keep it there to give you the illusion that you're fine, you're safe. And that's why attachments feel safer. Attachments feel cozy, but they're not cozy or safe. They lead to more sadness that lead to more anxiety because nobody wants to be attached. Your soul is not meant to be attached. Your soul is so wide, so free, so untamed. It's designed to love freely. It's designed to express freely and within that space, a deep intimacy, a deep honor and affection does happen.
But the mind doesn't want that mind continues to want to lock the person you love. This is why the moment you start to love someone, the moment you start to realize, oh, this is deep love one of the top things in your mind is how do I legally possess this person? Of course, the mind doesn't exactly phrase it this way because that won't be romantic anymore.
That won't be seductive. The mind will create a perfect background music. The Hallmark movies, the romance you read in the fantasy books. It all comes alive in that moment and the mind is like, yeah, you love this person and now you got to possess it. And that’s the danger of attachment. It becomes like a perfect, you know, snapshot of illusion.
The idea is to go beyond attachment, to recognize that a genuine love, a genuine creativity, genuine expression happens only in the space of detachment. Detachment does not mean you walk away from your work, your life, your relationships, or people. It means you don’t cling to the outcome. You don’t attach your worthiness or validation to those outcomes.
Detachments brings in that immense freedom that is so profound, so liberated, so refreshing. And that's why detachment is often misunderstood as something where you give up on people. It’s not about giving up on people. It's about going beyond your need for approval from people. And that's what keeps your work fresh, your creativity alive.
Every time you create content, every time you meditate, every time you reflect on your life, let it be the way it is. Don’t overly cling to the outcome, to the specific results. Detachment means freedom. It means a state of being where you are at peace with yourself, no matter what happens around you.
Last one, what does intimacy with yourself look and feel like? Can you identify a time when you felt deeply connected with your inner being and how did that influence your creativity and self-expression?
In this episode, we'll dive into these questions and so much more. I am Chandresh Bhardwaj and this is the Leila show.
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